Grief after pregnancy or infant loss is not something to “move on” from—it’s something you learn to carry. In the haze of shock, sadness, or confusion, finding the right support can feel overwhelming. This post will hopefully provide some resources that may ease your journey. You are not expected to do this alone. There are people, tools, and communities ready to walk with you.
Find a Grief-Sensitive Therapist
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Search for therapists who specialize in perinatal loss or birth trauma and who incorporate somatic, spiritual, or integrative approaches.
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Look for key terms like: somatic experiencing, EMDR, mind-body therapy, grief doula, perinatal mental health counselor.
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Postpartum Support International (many resources online) as well as local doulas can provide referrals for therapists in your area
Books & Gentle Reading
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“Empty Cradle, Broken Heart” by Deborah Davis (gentle guidance for parents navigating baby loss)
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“At a Loss” by Donna Rothert (finding your way after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death)
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“Healing After Loss” by Martha Whitmore Hickman (daily meditations for grief)
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“The Wild Edge of Sorrow” by Francis Weller (on grief as a soul process)
Podcasts for Soulful Grief Support
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The Joyful Mourning (a podcast for women navigating baby loss, faith-based but very gentle)
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Grief Out Loud (heartfelt stories from many perspectives)
Instagram Accounts
Holistic & Spiritual Practices for Healing
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Herbal allies: Chamomile, rose, lemon balm, milky oats, and motherwort for calming the nervous system.
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Ayurvedic & TCM wisdom: Warm cooked foods, avoiding cold/raw to protect digestion and emotional balance.
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Ritual & Ceremony: Journaling, lighting candles, planting a tree or flower in memory, creating a ritual bath with rose + lavender.
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Community care: Seek out local grief circles, women’s circles, or ceremonies where loss is honored in community. Local doulas often know how to connect you with the right group.
Stopping Lactation After Loss
For information on stopping lactation after loss, see our blog post written by Ashley Shapiro, IBCLC. Ashley sees patients virtually and accepts insurance.
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